Lose to Gain

I have been thinking a lot as I have been sitting with a lot of loss, and I'm trying to find understanding so I can maybe avoid parts of it in the future. But I think I realised why loss is an important part of the journey even though it is incredibly painful. Life has to have balance, it has to have a realistic capacity. Even when we think it doesn't, we will find out, good or bad, that life has its limits, you have your limits.

To pick one thing up realistically, and to hold it well or for a continued time, I have to put something down. When I say yes to a new location, I have to leave the one I'm currently behind. When I say yes to something that requires my time, I have to then choose to release something else that was previously my focus.

This is the reality of life. If we want to reach things, try new experiences, take risks, have accomplishments; sacrifices are irrefutable. We cannot avoid them. Everything has a cost and I don't say that in a monetary sense or melancholy tone. I mean that to receive something of purpose we often have to choose the hard and let go of others. It still hurts, it still holds layers of grief that have no timelines. I feel it's the same pendulum effect as grief and joy, or dark and light, good and evil. They have to logically coexist to have a sense of equilibrium, but more importantly, one has to be lessened for the other to increase and get its spotlight, so if you want to reach for something or want to choose another thing, it's going to cost you, you are going to have to say goodbye to something or release it and that is hard, but it's also allowing opportunity for new things and growth and an exploration of places that you've never been. 

So are you up for it? Willing to risk it to achieve new and better things? I dare you to try, because being uncertain, having unknown and still trying regardless of the hope for better, that is authentic bravery. In my experience, my greatest miracles and moments that are significant have been achieved by choosing to be brave and let go of comfort and knowing, to do it scared and keep going at whatever pace you can. It's not about speed, it's about movement that builds traction that can only be made by the ability to let go of the last step and get to the next one. It's not easy, but it's so worth it. I believe in you.